4 Ways Men can get Happier

I’ve had a number of articles published lately, but none have gained the traction that this one has (it quickly became a “featured article” in Elephant Journal). I believe that’s because the topic is exceptionally relevant. It’s time for men to hear how much they – and their happiness – matter.

4 Ways Men can get Happier

photo by Lesly B. Juarez via Elephant Journal

I had a heart-to-heart with my 12-year-old son yesterday.

And believe me when I say that it was a coup d’état. He’s not the emotional type. He’s very strategic, extremely focused, and remarkably driven. He doesn’t wallow, and frankly, doesn’t have patience for kids who do.

But he’s also human—and I could tell that things were brewing. And because I am deeply committed to raising my two sons with a full bandwidth of emotional intelligence, I gently, without prodding, asked him some questions.

And believe it or not, he responded.

He talked, I listened. I didn’t push back, I didn’t point out the things most parents would point out. I just held a safe space for him to be real, without judgment. He talked about what’s been tough for him with his buddies, on the sports field, at home.

He opened up about which kids were doing what, although never in a way that betrayed them (which, I have to admit, made me super proud of who he is). He told me how the bad times seem to last in his memory, while the good times quickly fade away.

It was one of my favorite moments of the year thus far. Not only did I get to see the deeper layers of what’s going on behind his beautiful eyes, I also paved the way for more of these moments.

Just as importantly, it reassured me that I’m helping him become a man who can communicate his emotions (read more…)

Rock Music and Big Dreams

I have a secret to share.

For many years I have held the dream of working with rock musicians.


That’s right. When I first entered the healing and coaching world, my Big Dream was to work with bands – with the guys (or girls) making serious waves in the world through their tunes.

I had more than a few people tell me this was crazy (okay, there were only a few people who didn’t tell me it was crazy).

But that didn’t matter.

The pull was real and it was deep.

So I persevered. I made it happen. I worked back stage Keep Reading…>>

Letting go of Negativty in 4 Easy Steps

I am furious.

At my dog. Who ran away. Again.

Actually, if I’m being truthful, he sauntered.

Photo Courtesy: Gratisography

Photo Courtesy: Gratisography

 

Regardless – this is not about the speed of my dog’s movement, but rather the speed of my movement.

As I stood in my kitchen seething with a quiet rage (at being duped, at having to take the time to go find him, and having ever-more stuff on my plate), I realized this was one of those times where I could choose to walk my talk (as an Energy Mastery Coach), or I could inadvertently let my emotions take charge of me.

I knew which I wanted, and my question soon became Keep Reading…>>

Why Softness Matters

5 ways to do more by being calmer

I was feeling pretty hard-edged for the first few months of the year. If you’ve read any of my recent blog posts, you may have noticed as much.

Oddly enough, I didn’t even notice it.

Photo courtesy Flickr (dictay2000)

Photo courtesy Flickr (dictay2000)

And the funny thing is, as an Energy Coach, it would be the first thing I’d notice if I met myself on the street. I wouldn’t judge it – I would just see it for what it was.

And I would realize that with some balancing, I’d be a lot more powerful.

But since it was me, and my own life, I was blind to it. I just kept on plugging away, pushing things into being, Keep Reading…>>

My Money Wasn’t Where My Mouth Was (or something like that)

Vulnerable stuff ahead…

I had an “ah-ha!” moment with my coach last week (yes, even I have a coach…and I’m way better for it!) that my definition of SUCCESS didn’t add up to my definition of success. It sounds convoluted, and it is, which is perhaps why I hadn’t even noticed it before.

Here’s what happened:

Photo – Courtesy Gratisography

Photo – Courtesy Gratisography

I have a business that I LOVE!

But…. I’m not yet serving as many people as I know I’m meant to serve. And I don’t yet have the income that I know I’m meant to have.

And I just now realized (yes, just now) that because of these things, I often feel more like a failure than a SUCCESS.

Which makes sense…but also TOTALLY doesn’t. Keep Reading…>>

When to Push v. When to Allow

I don’t know about you, but I’m feeling a little “off” right now.

I feel like I want to be slacking, but I that should be charging forward instead.

Something inside me is wanting to be fallow – you know, to rejuvenate and all – but another part of me is acutely aware of the danger of losing momentum.

And the whole thing has got me to thinking about when to Push versus when to Allow.

Thinking

This topic is not new. Not to me personally, and certainly not to my clients.

Here’s how I most often encounter it for myself:

I really don’t feel like doing the dishes right now – but that’s okay, because I’ll have the motivation to do them at some point in the next 3-6 hours.

And I do. So it’s all good – this is a system that works for me. And for my family.

Along these same lines, if I don’t feel like doing the laundry, I know I’ll get to it within a day or two. Writing thank-you cards? A few days. Writing my next blog post? Um….

This is what I’ve been facing the past few weeks.

Yes, weeks.

Plural.

I just plain wasn’t feeling it. I was all Christmas and New Years and travel and family and eggnog. Nowhere in this milieu was there an energetic connection to sitting at the computer. Or reaching out to people who, by my estimates, were similarly in their own little tinsel and eggnog bubbles.

Frankly, I wanted to give us all a break. Keep Reading…>>

Why We Give Others Our Power

And (of course) how we can stop

I fancy myself to be a really grounded, centered person.

And I am.

Most of the time, anyway.

This morning I was thrown from that happy warm-fuzzy bubble.

Courtesy iStock

Aghh! Why does that still happen, when I know as much as I know and help as many people as I do?

Why do I still allow someone to take my power?

Now, in all fairness, that someone was my husband. And he wasn’t trying to take my power… Keep Reading…>>

How to quickly Beat the Fear of Failure – mp3

Energy Coaching. Weekly. Free.

This week’s See for Free Coaching is all about how to move forward in the midst of our fears. I have found myself smack dab in the middle of needing this myself, the past day or two.

We’re never too old to learn, and it’s never too late to do some Puddle Jumping (it’ll make sense once you listen!). Enjoy, and leave a comment to let me know about puddles you’ve jumped lately!

Each week I respond, in an MP3, to a reader’s question with some Energy Coaching and/or a guided visualization. Let me know what you think, in the comments below.

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2 Critical Insights for Mastering Your Energy

(And you're already doing more of it than you realize...)

Do you ever wonder why some people feel really good to be around?

Or how some folks dominate a room, even if they are not loud?

Courtesty – Gratisography

It’s kind of strange, right? A puzzle.

I’ve been “reading the world through Energy” for more than a decade now. Heck, I was probably doing it before that, but hadn’t yet figured out how to make sense of it all.

What I’ve found is that it’s really easy to understand that puzzle, once you learn to see the patterns.

More importantly, when we learn the basics of Energy, we finally begin to master ourselves.*

What is Energy?

When I say “energy” I don’t mean how long you can run on a treadmill, or whether you’re falling asleep at your desk. Nor am I talking about the Einstein version of E=MC2.

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